Dress, socks: Angelic Pretty
Shoes: bodyline
belt: offbrand
Accessories: claires, handmade, pink macaroon, metamorphose
Bolero: ebay
Makeup:
As you may or may not know, I recently moved to a somewhat sketchy side of town. Not the worst, but not the best either. Especially compared to the side of town I moved from. So, since I wear my lolita clothing daily, or at least on a near daily basis, I was terrified of what to expect from people on this side of town! But, living on my own, this is all I can afford at the moment. At first, I didnt wear lolita at all! Then, slowly, i started to wear a skirt paired with a tanktop. Starting out slowly, you know? Then I slowly started to wear my jsks without a blouse...and you know what? It was ok! Now Im back at the point where I am wearing exactly what I want to again! And wearing what I love and makes me happy also gives me confidence!
I honestly believe that confidence is the key to getting positive feedback from people around you! In fact, I was so nervouse about wearing lolita at first, but I have only had 2 negative experiences since I moved at the beginning of January, and they wernt even that bad! Just mildly irritating! Aside from that, I have had tons of compliments on a daily basis! I have even been hit on, and asked out while just walking my dogs in lolita! And not by some creeper looking hobos or anything, but by actual guys who seem normal!
I feel that if someone is a bully, they are going to go after meak little prey. So dont look scared or intimidated or else you are quite likely to be singled out. Bullies pick people apart because it makes them feel better and they want to get a reaction out of you. So if you carry yourself with confidence and you feel comfortable, you are lot less likely to run into trouble.
But thats just in my experience. I may be strong willed, stubborn and confident now, but there was a time when I was very meek, sky, and bullied all the time. I would get teased for being half hispanic-half white, for having curly hair, because i loved to read, because I was smart, etc. It really broke me down for a long time. Then one day I decided I didnt care what they thought. They were not my friends. I didnt hang out with them. So why should I care? I should be proud of all thoese thing that they made fun of me for. That is what makes me ME! So I started feeling comfortable with myself, and I started to gain confidence. They slowly stoped picking on me when I quit giving them a reaction. And ever since then, I have rarely encountered any problems with anyone regardless of how I look or dress.
I know it may be hard to get the confidence at first. It was a little unnerving to all of a sudden lack the confidence to wear my clothes that i love so much. But, just take it easy and slow untill you feel comfortable and move on to the next step, and so on and so forth untill you can wear a full blown lolita coordinate with your head heald high, and a giant smile on your face!
Sorry for such a long post today but it was just something thats been on my mind recentlly. I should hopefully resume with the 30 day challange tomorrow. My bedroom light went out so its too. dark to take any pictures back there.
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